Where fun and fantasy meet....

In a conversation with an old friend recently, he disclosed that I have been masturbation fodder for him. We haven't seen each other in....13 years? But I am flattered. Seriously flattered. Because who doesn't want to be fantasized about?

And it made me wonder....is this normal? Does everyone think about previous partners from time to time while 'doing the laundry by hand' or while 'combining loads' with a current partner?

Me, not so much. I have fantasies, sure, but they don't usually involve anyone from my present or past. They're more fictional, maybe loosely based on someone I know/knew from time to time. Don't get me wrong - I have plenty from my wild'n'wooly past that could be quite good as fantasy fodder. But I tend to think about those escapades while I'm stuck in traffic. It's way more fun than wondering if i can keep my foot off the brake for more than 2 seconds. And you know that no one else is having dirty little thoughts like the ones I'm enjoying while I inch down the highway.

My previous post was the end-of-year sex quiz, and one of the question is if you would entertain one more night with someone from your sexual past. For me, of course, the answer was yes. It's a short list, but a good one. Which got me to wondering - would you rather have one more night with someone from your past, or a lifetime of fantasizing about him/her? because a lot can change in 5...10...15...20 years, you know? I am certainly not the same as I was when I was barely legal. And of course HE has changed. I'm sure of it. So is it better to keep him young and hot and ....perfect.... in my fantasies, or to have my hands on him just one more time in his current state, whatever that is? (and I certainly can't ignore the fact that some guys actually get better with age. waaaay better....) But what if that one night turned out to totally suck? Is that the last memory i'd want to have of being with him? Or is it better to just keep him young and hard in my garage, with his hand down my pants, fingering me for the first time on a warm June night?

I just don't know.

Good times, kids. Good times.

I got the End-of-Year Sex Quiz yesterday. Thought it might be fun to post it here...



Copy the quiz, paste it into the comments, change my answers to yours, and post it.


What turns you on the most?

• a really good kiss

Does size matter?

• it's not the size of the pencil, it's how he signs his name

Most times in one day?

• three, maybe? i really don't remember my young-and-randy days when i had time on my hands and nothing better to do

Most orgasms in one session?

• two

What do you think about during sex?

• these days, not much.

Ever had a 3some?

• not yet, but i'm working on it.

often do you "do it by hand"?

• not often. a few times/month, maybe.

Would you rather have oral only or intercourse only?

• intercourse only

Oral or anal?

• oral

Favorite position?

• doggie

What's better - someone you care about, or a one night stand?

• depends on the cast of characters. i've had some pretty awesome one night stands with people i care(d) about

Would you rather have a tryst in a completely dark bedroom, naked, with a locked door, or fully clothed in a semi-public place in broad daylight?

• broad daylight

Is it better to give or receive?

• give

Most embarassing moment during an intimate encounter?

• finding out the roommate wasn't asleep

Is there anyone from your sexual past that you'd want to have one more night with?

• of course

If so, who? (First names or initials only, please!)

• MS, MC, RB, SH

Have you ever played with food a la 9 1/2 Weeks?

• don't think so

Most unusual place you've ever had sex?

• chapter room of sorority house

How old were you when you lost your virginity?

• 17

Yes, it's been awhile....

I'm sorry. Life gets in the way. Between kids, working 2 jobs, and trying to get sleep in periodically, it's been nuts.

Thank heaven for old friends. I now have a new story idea, and it's one I would never have considered or come up w/ left to my own devices. But the more I think about it, the more interesting it seems. Apparently, there are plenty of guys out there with these older woman fantasies. A friend's mom takes their virginity, they meet an older woman at a bar or at work... She's sexy, intelligent, and interested in them. And of course, being older, she's experienced and teaches them a few things along the way. So I think I'm going to try to get a story whipped out in the next day or two. We'll see what happens. :)

So what else is new.... If you like piercing jewelry, here's a nice site that was recently recommended as being afforable and high quality: Painful Pleasures

It's summer, and I know that these warm summer nights make you want to grab a blanket and your sweetie and head for the backyard. Take the time to hang mosquito netting or wear plenty of bug repellant. Trust me - you do NOT want mosquito bites on your naughty bits! And if you have motion detector lights, be sure to turn them off before things get hot and heavy, or your neighbors will get quite a show.

Today's product highlight is the Love Rocker. According to the website, key benefits include:

• A gentle rocking motion that makes sex virtually effortless, so you can focus on feeling good.
  
• Comfortable padded seat and leg rests
  
• A sturdy frame that supports up to 500 lbs
  
• Disassembles easily and is fully collapsible for compact storage when your inlaws visit


• Like any good furniture, you can use it as a clothes rack when not used as intended.

Come on kids, doesn't this look like fun? Consider the possibilities! Ladies - no more holding your legs above your head for hours on end. Guys - no more sheet burns on your knees. And best of all, the kids can swing on it too! No more going to the park on hot afternoons!!

For the low price of $299.99 plus shipping ($35), there is nothing to mount in your ceiling, you don't have to be an acrobat to use it, and best of all, satisfaction is guaranteed for 30 days!! (Return shipping is free if you return w/in 30 days.) You have nothing to lose!

So on that happy note, kids, I'm going to get started on this story I need to write, and I'll check back in with y'all sooner or later. And if you buy the Love Rocker, be sure to post a comment here on how it works for you! Inquiring minds want to know!

It's a coffee table....it's a sex toy.....

Meet the Equus:

According to the website:

When not commissioned as a love lounge, Equus becomes a "kid safe" coffee table, bedside rest, massage table, workout bench or extra seating anywhere.

Available in two sizes to match the width of a standard queen or king-size bed, it also makes a handy "end of bed bench" to hold your clothes and other crap when you're not getting busy.

At $285.60 for the queen size, and $322 for the king, it's practically a bargain! (Not to mention the current sale - regular price is a whopping $460 for either size. At the sale price, you might as well buy two - one for the bedroom and one for the family room!)

Or, if you're feeling really flush, spring for the Black Label:

Whether you ride in or out of saddle Equus black label is a sporting event worth doing. Tricks like fancy roping, pole bending, bull riding, lassoing, trick riding, saddle broncing are now all easy to perform. Available in black microfiber with optional, playful restraints, blindfold, tethers, silk ties, and matching Equus Rest for both cradling and giving head.

Tombstone Generator

Are we all looking for the same things?

I've been working on an idea for a new story. The premise is that two people - each married to someone else - are looking for someone to satisfy what's missing in their existing relationships. They meet through an online ad.

So, to do some research, I've been reading online ads for married people who are looking. It became quickly apparent that everyone is basically looking for the same things...sex (obviously) in new/exciting ways, and someone who will help them recapture that feeling of being newly in love/lust, that excitement and anticipation. I'll admit - I miss those things, too. So why is it, then, that we aren't able to get this from our current partners? Why do people have to resort to looking elsewhere? Many are also quick to note that they do not want to replace or leave their current relationship - just find someone who can provide the missing elements and enable them, I guess, to stay where they are.

What would happen if everyone were granted three free passes a year when they got married? Each pass would entitle the user to one no-strings-attached encounter that was not up for discussion with your partner. You choose when to use it, who to use it with, and why. The same goes for your partner. Would that be enough to keep people happy?

Me - I like NSA sex. But I also prefer to have some sort of relationship with the person - as in, we're friends w/ benefits, I guess. I don't like the idea of picking up someone online, or at a bar, or whatever. And that could, I suppose, complicate things if I were in a "3 passes/year" relationship, because jealousy exists in everyone to some degree.

What do you think? Are we all just looking for the same thing? If so, why can't we be content with what we have at home, and work on bringing back the excitement and newness that has dulled over time, due to familiarity or family or whathaveyou? Or is it better to try to satisfy those occasional needs outside the relationship, in the interest of not rocking the boat?

It is finished.

It is short, this new piece. Only a mere 1000 words. But yet I think it does what it is supposed to do, says what it needed to say. I am sending it off to my two beta readers, who will, hopefully, report back to all of you with their initial impressions, and will provide me with any feedback to improve my latest project.

For those who are wondering, and who would like a little taste of what is to come, here is the beginning of the newly-born story.

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While Waiting

I knew when I saw him it would be hard to say no. These long years later, I still can’t refuse. Any minute now, he will be walking through the door of this dark bar, and any willpower I may have had will evaporate. I will feel the tingle in my legs, the pit of my stomach will drop into my twat, and all I will be able to focus on is the subtle sway of his hips as he walks toward my table. His voice will be in my head before he speaks.

“Hi.” The simple word caresses my check, then slips into my ear like his tongue has done so many times before. My breath quickens to match my pounding heart. I can feel my pulse in my clit, measuring the moments until he’s behind me. He will sweep my hair to one side and kiss my neck, softly, gently, behind my ear. My head will roll, away, around, and my lips will find his.

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Review from Beta Reader #1:
Well, beta reader #1 loved it. She says that had her husband been home, he would have been one lucky man. I'm sure he was thrilled to hear that when he did finally arrive home. Beta reader #2 will be reporting in tomorrow, I hope.

Review from Beta Reader #2:
Beta reader #2 said it was "sweet and romantic." Not necessarily what I was going for, but ok. He also said: "That wasn't smut, it was erotica. Very skilled erotica." He worries when reading future perfect tense. Funny, since I worry when writing it. It's not a style I plan to cultivate or attempt on a regular basis, but sometimes the story decides how it will be told, which was future perfect tense in this case. It's not something a lot of writers try, because it's easy to mess up. Mine was, he said, "technically perfect." So that's nice to hear. I do appreciate good grammar, and try to produce it whenever possible.